Some Thoughts About Change
Change is something we can always count on. Sometimes we must adjust to environmental changes brought on by external events, and other times we must make personal changes in our lives to better ourselves and overcome difficulties that may be impeding our own advancement.
Personal changes and environmental or societal changes affect us differently because personal changes require us to notice and overcome via discipline. Societal changes, on the other hand, are beyond our control and must be accepted and adapted to be conquered. People can change the environment or society in extremely rare circumstances. However, these individuals are few and far between and are regarded as revolutionaries.
When we strive to transform ourselves, there are some barriers we must overcome just to get started. First and foremost, there can be no motivation for personal change until we admit there is a problem. This is the most challenging step.
It is difficult to admit we are wrong, acknowledge our poor choices, and be honest with ourselves. When we grow emotionally invested in what we have produced, it becomes more difficult to change. Recognizing that the person we’ve constructed isn’t the person we want to be is both the first and hardest step in initiating change.
The application of discipline is the second item we must consider. Without discipline, no change will last. Discipline, not motivation, should be the goal to conquer. Motivation, like a flower, is transient. The trick is to master discipline; to remain anchored in discipline is to become a mountain. Make yourself as substantial as a mountain, not as transient as a flower.
If circumstances force us to experience tragedy, we must let go of the notion that we are victims to evolve. Even though events beyond our control have had an impact on our lives and well-being, change will not occur if we assume we are victims. To effect meaningful change, we must abandon the victim mentality.
The final barrier to overcome is moving outside of one’s comfort zone. We are often content to be depressed. When sadness is considered normal, everything appears to be in order. The most frightening aspect of change is stepping out of order and into chaos. But the lovely thing about chaos is that it always returns to order.
What factors affect change?
The rules of nature have the most fundamental influence on transformation. Though we have limited control over natural laws, recognising some of them might help us succeed on our path to transformation.
If we grasp that the universe is mental and that everything begins in the mind, if we comprehend the power of the mind and how our mind influences our reality, we will be on the right track to attaining our objectives.
Every creation we’ve ever seen began in the mind’s eye. Developing and maintaining a good mindset is critical to transforming ourselves.
This isn’t always simple, so understanding two additional natural principles will help you maintain a good attitude. Both the law of polarity and the law of rhythm operate in tandem. Polarity is the reality that everything in nature is dual. Order and chaos are two polarities that exist at opposite extremes of the same spectrum. Both +10 and -10 are polarities; they are numbers divided by a degree. Any polarity’s two extremes are essentially the same thing separated by a degree. Rhythm, the other fundamental law, rules over the polarity.
We can’t always position ourselves on the positive side of any given polarity, but with the awareness that polarities are continuously shifting, we may use our mentality to stay optimistic, knowing that the swing of rhythm will return us to the positive pole. The more positive our perspective, the faster and more easily we can modify our mindset.
Everything we’ve discussed thus far points to another natural law, cause and effect. When circumstances occur that are beyond our control, we are ruled, and our actions are effects; in truth, our actions are reactions. We are bending ourselves and our future by finding the courage, mentality, and discipline to change. We take the first step by deciding to change, and after our reaction to the awareness that we must change, we begin to create our world rather than react to it.
This is true because we are producing the changes within ourselves, and while we will still react, we will be reacting to a cause we initiated by beginning change. When we respond to the desire for change, for whatever reason, we gain control, however modest, and may begin to plan our new route to a better self.
Of course, there are a million more things beyond our control that we must react to, but we do have the ability to be causes of our own. Through knowledge of natural laws and a willingness to acknowledge our flaws,
There are certain things we can change, and others we cannot. We should strive not to be concerned with things we can’t alter because it will only lead to failure and dissatisfaction. We can transform ourselves. Our mental processes, emotions, and reactions We also can change our unwanted behaviours and improve our physical health. We can improve ourselves financially by improving ourselves intellectually.
All of these things are within our power to modify. However, these changes will require a transition from comfort to discomfort. From the known to the unknown is a step that requires commitment and guts.
What things are we powerless to change? What should we avoid focusing on? Other individuals, We cannot and should not attempt to change other people. Unless we can change them indirectly by leading by example, attempting to change others is a futile endeavour. It will be tough to persuade others to change their minds. We will rarely be able to influence other people’s minds, and we will seldom be able to stop other people’s judgments. The fact that we can’t change other people’s minds should be enough to convince us that we shouldn’t care about theirs.
Fear of what other people think of us can stymie our desire to change. People who can carve their path in life are more likely to succeed; they are also less likely to care about the opinions of others. Another reason you shouldn’t care about other people’s opinions is that they probably don’t like the fact that we have the strength and drive to initiate change because they don’t have such power at the time, so such people may not react positively to the news that we are trying to improve our position in life.
Things beyond our control are not something we should try to change or be concerned about. For many years, I focused my attention on things I couldn’t possibly change, and as a result, I became depressed, agitated, and, frankly, someone others would rather avoid. What we pay attention to becomes our thoughts, and what we think becomes our perception. Giving our attention to poor media will thus hurt our perception, reducing our chances of seeing changes as a necessary effort worth pursuing.
Change begins with small steps. If we want to change for the better, we must start small. To succeed, take small steps toward change. Giving ourselves small, manageable goals will increase our chances of success. We gain confidence by completing goals, which motivates us to keep going. The opposite is also true; if we set our goals too high, we set ourselves up to fail, lose confidence, and find it more difficult to continue. We should not be afraid of or avoid failure, but we should also not set ourselves up to fail. We recognise our limitations and set goals accordingly. Our goals should be challenging enough to make us feel like we’ve accomplished something, but not so difficult that they’re impossible to achieve in a reasonable amount of time. These larger goals should be attained through a series of small, well-planned milestones.
Have an end goal in mind, as well as a target to meet. Determine what we need to do to achieve our goals and plan effectively. If we want to make more money, we should first consider our options at our current job. If there is no chance of advancement, we must consider other jobs; if other jobs do not meet our criteria, we must consider education. What steps do you need to take to pursue an education? If you need to brush up on your math or English skills first, go ahead and do so. Make the necessary efforts to gain admission to a college or university.
Small steps, small goals if the goal is to lose weight. Be true to yourself. It’s better not to be kind to ourselves when we have these personal goals. Accept it. We must admit that we are overweight. We must devise a workable strategy. This week, avoid drinking soda. An attainable goal Once we’ve accomplished it, we’ll be able to say, “OK, no soda or chocolate this week.” Looking at our weight isn’t even necessary for the first few weeks. Stopping the behaviours that cause us to gain weight is more important.
Addiction recovery is the most difficult change to make. To win the battle, there must be a significant shift in mindset or a compelling reason. There must also be a substitute for the original addiction. We can seek medical assistance to obtain temporary replacements, but we must ensure that the medical assistance is only temporary. When I quit smoking, I compared my desire for a cigarette to thirst, so I drank water whenever I felt the urge. I took up Brazilian Jiu Jitsu shortly after quitting smoking. This became my substitute for smoking. I knew that if I smoked, I wouldn’t be able to afford the membership and that smoking would hurt my fitness. BJJ gave me a reason and the willpower to quit smoking. A worthwhile, healthy activity can be used to replace addiction treatment, but a new mindset is required for success.
If we want to run a marathon, we must first run a kilometre. Then we can go 5 kilometres, 8 kilometres, and 10 kilometres. Small victories will boost our confidence, allowing us to believe in ourselves.
We must believe in ourselves. We must not be afraid to experiment. We should never be afraid of failing. Trying and failing is preferable to failing to try. Every one of us is capable of making positive changes in our lives. Nobody else can help us.
Remember this the next time you want to complain about your lot in life. Your own decisions and reactions created your current situation, and your own decisions and reactions will empower you to move forward and make the positive changes that will silence your complaints.