Norms for Effective Parent-Child Communication
Raising children has advantages and disadvantages for parents. I have four of my own, and they are all different in their own special ways. Sometimes they are kind, straightforward, and truthful. Other times, my nerves are being put to the ultimate test. But I’ve made a firm commitment to instilling in my kids the value of interpersonal communication. This entails realizing the value of both reasoning and emotion while interacting with people, especially family.
Your kids demand and value your attention, whether they are just starting to talk or are older than teenagers. Keep in mind that communication should always begin with the parent and not the youngster. And even though you may feel like all is lost at times, just remember that being persistent and consistent will lead to the desired outcome: respected, appreciated, and honest conversation that is open and honest. Here is a list of considerations for maintaining effective communication, whether in person or with modern technology:
- Tell your child that you are involved, that you care about them, and that you will support them if they need it.
- When your youngster wants to talk, turn off the TV or put down the newspaper.
- When your child has something vital to tell you, avoid taking phone calls.
- Keep talks private unless other people are being added with prior permission. When no one else is there, you and your child will be able to communicate the best.
- In contrast to encouraging open communication, embarrassing your child or putting him on the spot in front of others can only result in antagonism.
- Do not be taller than your younger sibling. Drop to their level so you can chat with them.
- Avoid communicating with someone if you are extremely upset about their actions or an incident until you have calmed down, as you will be unable to be objective until you have done so.It is preferable to take a break, calm down, and speak to your youngster afterwards.
- Being an active listener will require more work if you are really exhausted. When your body and mind are out of sync, it is very difficult to engage in genuine active listening. You are already worn out.
- Do your best to listen politely. When your youngster is attempting to share his story, don’t interrupt. Treat your child with the same respect that you would your best friend. All throughout life, please and thank you are still expected.
- Avoid unraveling insignificant plot strands and preventing your child’s own theme from emerging. This is a parent who responds to the incidentals of communication as the main For example, the parent may say, “I don’t care what they are doing, but you had best not be engaged in anything like that,” while the kid begins to describe what happened.
- Ask what happened rather than why something happened that you didn’t like.
- Confront your kid with the information you know or have been informed if you have knowledge of an unacceptable scenario, but don’t do it to catch them in a lie. To put it Another way is don’t confront your child by asking them whether they did anything; instead, just say what you know and inquire as to what transpired in order to find out what happened.
- Keep “adult talking” to a minimum since it hinders opening and maintaining communication. You can use phrases like “You’ll talk when I’m done,” “I know what’s best for you,” and “Just follow my instructions and the issue will be resolved” as examples.
- Avoid using derogatory terms or phrases like “dumb,” “stupid,” or “lazy.” “What do you know? You’re just a kid,” or “Come on, fool, that makes no sense at all.” Instead, acknowledge their understanding—even if it doesn’t make sense to you—and then clarify your position and the reasons you think it is more significant.
- Help your youngster develop a strategy that includes specific measures to solve the problem.
- Accept your child for who they are, regardless of what they have done or not done.
- Encourage your youngster to maintain open lines of communication. Accepting him and complimenting their communication attempts will accomplish this.
- Always keep in mind that you are the parent. Even as adults, your children turn to you for guidance on how to behave. Whether you like it or not, you are also laying the foundation for who they will be as parents. You deserve If you reject, minimize, or disrespect your child as unworthy of your time or, even worse, as undeserving of their own views, they will develop mistrust and anger and may end up misbehaving. Last but not At least, setting limits is acceptable when necessary, but only if you can really witness your child suffering damage.
In the end, we are social beings who require communication with one another. Using this list of communication techniques can assist in laying a solid basis for your kids’ future self-worth and ease of speaking with others.